What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger: Study Finds Break Ups Harder For Women

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Breaking up is hard to do, as the song goes — but it’s even harder on women, according to a new study published in the journal Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences. The good news is, though, that women also heal better.

“Breakups seem to ‘hit’ women harder at first, but they do recover, often in better ‘relationship shape’ than before,” said lead author Craig Morris. “Men react differently initially, but also seem to never truly ‘recover.’ They just sort of move on.”

Morris and his team of researchers surveyed 5,705 participants in 96 countries about their breakups. They asked about the severity of the breakup, who initiated, and what went wrong. Participants also had to self-report their emotional and physical pain on a scale of one through 10, with one being totally fine, and 10 being unbearably hurt.

In terms of emotional pain, women fared worse. Women averaged a rating of 6.84, while men averaged 6.58. Though the difference may seem small, researchers considered it statistically significant.

In terms of physical pain, women scored 4.21, while men scored 3.75 on average.

After breaking up, women reported experiencing more depression, fear, and anxiety, while men reported feeling more numb, unfocused, and angry.

The study also found that women were more likely to initiate the break than men were, despite facing a more treacherous road to recovery. What’s interesting is that previous research shows women are more likely to initiate divorce, too. In about 70% of legal cases, women are the ones who first begin the process and seek out divorce lawyers.

This might seem sad, but it means that women are more likely to walk away from a caustic relationship, even at great expense to their well being.

Even better, women ultimately come out of their hardships emotionally stronger.

“Most women, broadly speaking, seem to be hit hard and fast by a breakup, but are less self destructive, utilize more social support, and recover faster and more fully,” said Morris. Men, however, “seem to react badly and in some sort of self-destructive/angry fashion often combined with depression. … This can last for months or years. Then they just sort of ‘move on,’ usually via another relationship.”

Battery Charger Starts Hotel Blaze, Not Weirdest Way to Set a Fire


Each year, there are about 3,900 hotel and motel fires are reported to U.S. fire departments, most of which are caused by cooking. However, a recent fire in Fargo, North Dakota was caused by something small, ordinary and innocuous.

A battery charger.

According to a report from local news affiliate WDAY, the Fargo Fire Department responded to a small fire at the Vista Inn hotel. When firefighters got into the room, they found a small fire burning on top of a dresser, which they quickly put out. The Fargo Fire Department said that an overheated battery charger plugged into equipment in the room caused the fire.

The hotel guest staying in the room was obliged to find other lodging, because of the smoke damage. Total damages were estimated at $6,000.

As weird as a fire caused by a battery charger might seem, it’s not the strangest way a hotel fire has started.

Back in 2013, police in Lebanon, Tennessee started taking preventative measures against meth cooks, who began setting up shop in hotels and motels. One motel meth lab even resulted in an explosion; the blast was powerful enough to send the door flying and knock a wall over.

Worse (or better, depending on how you look at things), authorities charged a hotel security officer that year with deliberately setting multiple fires in two Manhattan hotels he’d been working at. His motive was to try to scare off guests in order to make his job easier.

Most recently, fake palm trees fueled a massive blaze at a hotel in Las Vegas at the end of July. According to Clark County Battalion Chief Leo Durkin the trees were made from a material that’s commonly used on the Las Vegas strip for facades and decorations. Though it can take a bit of effort to ignite, the foam burns quickly and intensely once it catches fire.

Maybe an overheated battery charger isn’t so weird?

Clinton Plans To Switch All American Homes To Renewable Energy Sources


During a speech on July 26th, Democratic presidential candidate Hillary Clinton outlined her plan to increase the use of alternative energy sources in the United States. Clinton hopes to have every home in the country powered by renewable sources of energy by 2027, which would give her 10 years to implement the plan if she is elected.

Clinton’s intention is to install half a billion solar panels nationwide by 2021, which is a 700% increase from the current amount of panels that has been installed. She also aims to implement other sources of renewable energy — such as wind, hydro, and geothermal energy sources — and to expand the renewable energy market to produce at least one third of all electricity, which will greatly reduce waste emissions that cause health issues like asthma.

The ultimate goal is to transition from an economy that primarily uses fossil fuels to one that predominantly uses cleaner, renewable energy. Part of the plan’s success depends on Clinton’s ability, if elected, to create more tax incentives for those who switch.

In addition to incentives, Clinton says, her administration would enforce stricter guidelines for industries involved with the processing of fossil fuels. She stated that she will fight back the Republican efforts to take money from the Clean Power Plan put together by the Obama administration.

The renewable energy industry is one that have been evolving exponentially over the past few years. Since 2008, the cost of solar panels has declined by 80%, a number which continues to grow as more home and business owners make the switch. For those who cannot afford the switch to a renewable energy source, Clinton promises to make additions to the Clean Power Plan that will offer grants and other monetary governmental assistance for state and local governments, and for individual home and business owners.

Japan is Saying ‘I Do’ to Alpacas


Ah, the dream wedding. Can’t you just picture it now? Beautiful flower arrangements, a three-tier wedding cake, all of your closest friends and family…and an alpaca?

The Hotel Epinard in Tochigi, Japan has recently begun renting out alpacas for the wedding hall’s special events. Surprisingly, the trend is taking off in a huge way.

Alpacas hold no special cultural meaning or symbolism within Japanese society. Rather, it’s likely the trend is more of a novelty than anything culturally significant. Remember, this is also a culture that praises napping on the job and has cafes that exist exclusively for cuddling.

Alpacas are a domesticated grazing creature that are similar in appearance to llamas, but are much smaller. Their fur is often sheared and used to make clothing, blankets, and other sartorial commodities.

It is not uncommon to see an alpaca living among flocks of sheep, serving as their overseer and protector.

Generally speaking, alpacas do not take well to human contact, and have a tendency to spit at other alpacas and humans alike. Usually, this kind of behavior would make a person a pretty terrible wedding guest.

Nonetheless, Hotel Epinard has seen a great deal of rentals as of late. The alpacas are handled by professional overseers and are dressed to the nines with well-groomed, voluminous fur and sparkly bow ties.

This trend is not entirely new. In November of last year, Jezebel reported that llamas were becoming a popular mainstay at some American weddings. In December, they posted yet another article about a woman seeking six Corgis for her wedding party, so each of her bridesmaids could hold one pup in place of flowers.

Hotel Epinard places a $400 price per alpaca that attends your wedding. It may be a strange trend, but considering that approximately 42% of marriages end in divorce, it hardly calls for criminal law you might as well make the big day as wacky and as memorable as possible.

Patients Reporting “Surprise Bills” From Urgent Care Centers


According to a recent report from USA Today, patients could expect an increase in fees at their local urgent care center. The report documents multiple patients claiming to share the same problem: deceptive fees.

When visiting their local urgent care centers, patients usually could expect a short wait time (less than 20 minutes for almost 69% of urgent care facilities) and a short receipt, if they had the right insurance. But now, many patients are being told incorrect information about their insurance coverage.

“I received a bill from a doctor for $356,” said Sallyann Johnson, a 62-year-old Milwaukee native. Johnson fell and injured both wrists and hands, and before she went to her local urgent care clinic, she called ahead to be sure that they accepted her insurance. She was told that the center would, but she later received a bill nonetheless. She added, “I felt I asked all the right questions.”

Most patients seek out urgent care centers in an attempt to save money in the event that a minor illness or injury doesn’t warrant the bill (or the wait time) of an emergency room visit. But now, it looks like urgent care patients might see changes in their insurance participation with certain centers, and may even fall victim to the “surprise bill.” These bills, also known as “balance bills,” claim additional costs that are determined by hospitals and doctors who are out-of-network of your insurance.

To avoid unexpected fees, check into which emergency centers near you will take your insurance. Be sure to ask about the doctor you see, as well, because if they’re a contracted specialist, they could charge you separately from the center itself.